Showing posts with label judgement. Show all posts
Showing posts with label judgement. Show all posts

Friday, August 5, 2011

Get off your high horse

I'm back and ready to vent blog.

I have a question, and it's a question I've been wanting answered for so long, so care to help me?

Why do Mother's judge each other?

Why do we feel the need to pick, and criticise and judge what another Mum is doing with her child/ren?

I belong to a facebook group. I'm pretty sure we're all ladies, all mother's. We have a common interest, and that interest is cloth nappies.

A lady asked what's so bad about the Save our sleep (SOS) book/routine.

Now I understand most of these ladies on the page are into cloth nappies, Baltic amber, co sleeping, baby wearing etc etc.

But their comments; mainly directed at me as we used her times as a guide, and used her self settling methods were disgusting.

Here are a few pearlers:

* Babies starve on SOS as the Mum's don't feed the baby when they are hungry.

* I feel so sorry for babies who's Mum's use SOS. They are missing out on so many cuddles.
I just don't get it. Why does MY babies life involve you?

Why do you think that because we have a routine that I no longer have a brain and don't know when my son is hungry? Surely him doubling his birth weight by 3 months is a good indication that he wasn't ever left hungry.

While I do think some of the reasoning and logic in SOS isn't for me, I would never ever say anything to a parent about that.

It shits me up the wall this constant...... comparison? Competition?

Why don't we support and encourage instead of belittling and supporting others?

Thursday, March 24, 2011

And the judgements continue


I forget which one of my favourite bloggers was speaking about something similar the other day.....

Anyway.

A recent debate about vaginal births and c sections has gotten me thinking, why aren't we happy unless we are judging or criticising or putting someone down?

It feels to me like if you say ' I had a drug free vaginal birth' it's in some way something smug to say. Is it not just speaking the truth? Can we not be happy for this person, if they achieved the birth they wanted?

If someone said ' I had a c section' are we quick to judge that Mum and perhaps think 'they took the easy way out' or 'they were too posh to push'. Why do we not just think that she made the right decision for her and her baby?

It just seems like whenever the word children is mentioned, whether it be in regards to birthing said child, feeding the child, disciplining the child there is never a moment when you are not judged.

Have you felt the judgement of others recently?