Thursday, March 4, 2010

A Hard Week

This week I have found out my not quite 15 yr old sister is pregnant. To say I'm disappointed and upset would be an under statement. They live in another state so I can't really help/do much from here. The most upsetting thing though is apparently she's excited about it. I don't think she realises babies are not little dolls you can dress up and hand back when they are crying/upset etc. Having a baby is a life time commitment.

Apparently the father is some 'one night stand' that'll 'be there for her' YEAH RIGHT!!! I just know now the life my sister will have if she has this baby. She probably won't finish yr 10 (baby is due in October) so will have a hard time finding a decent job having not completed yr 10 and having a small baby/child. She is very immature for her age (being the youngest of 3) and definitely lacks motivation. I honestly can't see her going back to school to finish year 11 and 12. Far out, so disappointed. I guess I was just waiting for the announcement considering my mother let her stay at a boyfriends place at 13..... but no they werent having sex right!? Some people are so naive.

I think it's especially upsetting as the husband and I planned our bub's and wanted to make sure we were as financially and emotionally ready as we could be before deciding to bring a baby into the world. My childhood wasn't the easiest or most enjoyable. We never went on holidays like other families did and that is something I don't want our bub's to experience. I'm not talking about a fantastic 5 star experience. Even something as fun and basic as camping for a week in the summer holidays.

My sister sent me a message saying ' Being pregnant and keeping it is all my choice. Mum is supporting my wishes like I thought you would. How would you feel if people were telling you to give up your baby. I don't care who supports me through this, but the people who do I know care and love me.'

I just don't know how to support her when I think it's selfish to bring a child into the world when you're not financially and emotionally ready. Growing up in a single parent household surviving week to week thanks to the government was not fun and I wouldn't wish it on anyone. So how do I support my sister when I think she's not making the best decision?

Squirt and I

Squirt at 22 Weeks

* Squirt weighs about 430 grams, measures just over 27 centimetres long from crown to heel.

* The lips are distinct and the eyes are formed, though the iris (the coloured part of the eye) still lacks pigment.

* The first signs of teeth appear in the form of tooth buds beneath the gum line

Mumma To Be

Loving

* feeling Squirt kicking and moving around

* my ever changing shape

* the excitement people get when they rub my belly

Loathing

* being woken up in the middle of the night with leg cramps

* itchy flaky belly skin

Bump Pics





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